The first thing I want to do is thank Mrs Dani Crater for her nomination – it was such a lovely surprise and really put a smile on my face! To think that less than a year ago I wouldn’t even tell people I wrote, never mind be writing for a living and receiving peer recognition, really does mean a lot.
What is the Sunshine Blogger Award?
The Sunshine Blogger Award is a peer-recognition award, where bloggers can nominate the bloggers who are super creative, inspire them to grow and bring positivity to the blogging community.
- Thank the blogger who nominated you in your blog post & link back to his/her/their blog.
- Answer the 11 questions the blogger asked you.
- Nominate 11 new bloggers to receive the award and write them 11 questions.
- List these rules and display the sunshine blogger award logo in your post & on your blog.
What stereotype would you most love to prove wrong?
The one stereotype that really winds me up is that by working from home, I don’t ‘work’. I’ve been told writing is just a hobby, to get a real job, I’ve even been called ‘stay at home Jess’ and asked how much I earn, something I have never asked a friend who works outside of their home… it really winds me up! I constantly feel like I have to justify myself and what I do, then I get angry at myself for doing this when I know how hard I work and should just shrug the comments off. I wish people respected other people’s choices and didn’t feel the need to comment or put their opinion across when things don’t impact them.
If you were a wrestler, what would your entrance music be?
Anything by Blink 182 (except maybe Adam’s Song…) – I’d be pumped and ready to wrestle!
Where is the line between old fashioned values being acceptable & unacceptable? I.e. being a housewife or breadwinner while the wedded counterpart fills the opposing role?
I think this one goes down to personal preference. I don’t judge anyone for being a stay at home mum or dad or assume that the man earns more and will pay for everything. Whatever you want to do, as long as it’s what you’re both happy with, what fits your lifestyle and if you can afford it, then do it. It’s no one’s right to enforce their beliefs on you. I think you can be a feminist and a stay at home mum, you can want to change the world and work a ‘normal’ 9 to 5 – no one has the right to judge you based on your role or occupation. If you’re happy and you have chosen your path, then keep walking it with your head held high.
Who is the muse of your blog?
I write for myself, but I like to think that I write for people like me – people who want to be introduced to strong, inspirational women, being who are concerned about world issues and who are growing into the person that they want to become.
Sometimes, I write content that I need to read. My positive posts are often ones that I write to boost myself and I share them in the hopes that they will help someone else out there too.
When do you feel the most grateful to be you?
Right now, my life is everything I hoped it would be and everything I have worked tirelessly for – I live with the person I love in a country that I have always wanted to move to and write every day. I am beyond grateful for my life.
How do you spend your “me” time when your other half, kids, friends & housemates are away?
When I get ‘me’ time, I tend to watch TV shows I like that Jack doesn’t – I’m looking at you, Teen Mum UK! Jack and I are quite good at finding things to watch together, but my ‘me’ time is my chance to binge watch The Office and reality shows that Jack hates. Other than that, I love to curl up with a good book and have a bath.
Why do so many of us feel selfish because we have a self care routine?
Because we are made to. We’re made to think that taking a sick day from work is the worst thing we could do and lets everyone in your team down, so we force ourselves to keep going, to take on more hours, to smile and put up with the pressure, then when we say we need a break we are guilted and our capacity to cope is questioned.
We only get one body, so it’s important to look after it. On top of that, we only get one life. I want to look back on mine and know I gave it a good shot.
True or false: you can be a masterpiece and a work in progress at the same time.
This quote isn’t one that overly resonates with me compared to others, but I do think it is true. Nothing is ever perfect and there is always room to grow, but I believe that where you are right now is where you are meant to be so I guess that makes you a masterpiece of the moment you’re in.
Discuss your thoughts on WAGs (infamous “wives and girlfriends” of sportsmen or celebrities who are known mostly for their husband)
I guess as a fan of shows like The Real Housewives of Cheshire I am a bit biased, but I tend to just think live and let live. We can’t all be rich and famous, so if our partner is and we use this to launch a career, do charity work (which a lot of people do) or hold the fort down at home, then so be it. If people aren’t hurting anyone and are happy, then who am I to comment on someone else’s choice?
Share the biggest problem you have in life right now – a problem shared is a problem halved.
This is a problem for the future, but I worry about it now anyway because I’m a worrier! I worry about if we are staying in Australia or going back home to England. We have a visa for the next 2 years but after that is unknown, so I go back and forth on travelling more of Australia and the places around here or going and visiting home at some point next year. It’s something that is always in the back of my mind, even though I try not to let it take over too much of the now.
Describe your happily ever after.
I’d like to have travelled to a few more places, but really my happily ever after looks like being married to Jack, living in our own home, having a family and being a successful author, maybe even have a few screenplays to my name… a life where I create for a living in a place I am happy surrounded by people I love, that’s the dream.
I ask of my nominees the following questions:
1. Why did you start your blog?
2. What song can instantly lift your mood when you listen to it?
3. What is your favourite positive/motivational quote?
4. Would you describe yourself as a feminist? Why/why not?
5. How does your life now compare to the life you imagined when you were a child?
6. What small things do you think we could all do every day that would make life for ourselves and others a little happier?
7. If you had to compare yourself to a TV or film character, who would it be and why?
8. What ‘flaw’ have you become less insecure about with time?
9. What is one thing you wish people knew about you that they might not?
10. How would you define beauty?
11. What does happiness mean to you?